I also noticed that many â [bold]not all,[/bold] but many â of the ones who are available:(1) only want to date guys who are in their 20s and early 30s;(2) have never been in a long-term relationship; if you are in your 50s, and you have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few dates or a few months, that could be a real problem;(3) just gave up on themselves, i.e., decided that they no longer had to take care of how they look (as in they donât go near a gym and make exceptionally poor eating choices), and complain about their âailmentsâ as if they are 85 and in a nursing home;(4) are either just plain weird or have a harsh, bitter, jaded edge that is really unpleasant to be around. As I said, slim, but not nonexistent, so, hope springs eternal. It's a little annoying to me, but anyway it happens so you might as well try. Because younger guys looking for older men are looking for someone to take care of them.Iâm very involved in the community, have a lot of friends and a fantastic dog, and never lack for things to do or people to do them with. Or, in the short term, buy them things and take them on trips.
I know lots of guys my age (40s) who are hung up on the idea that they want a 20-something boyfriend.
It's just not a reasonable demand..when I dig deeper I see that they are stunted emotionally in some way, and never had that 'perfect boyfriend' when THEY were in their 20's..can't move on from that until they get some young twink to fall in love with them. I meant to add that hooking up with younger guys is a whole 'nother story.
If I had a nickel for every time I heard that one...[quote]I attract mostly guys in their mid 20s looking for someone a little older. I'm not delusional enough to think I look early-mid 20s, but I can pass for a good 10 years younger. Guys in their 20s and 30s see me as one of their contempories.
When I finally tell them the truth--that I'm old enough to be their father--they don't really care. It's a great thing not to look your age in the gay world, and I'm going to milk my great genetics as long as I can.
What exactly is it then, OP, that would interest any of us in one of you?
I can't imagine how a site geared toward the old/young combo would attract anyone other than pervs and golddiggers.
Maybe because he was sort of immature which made me feel even older.
We talked about the age difference once and he said he thought it was hot.
It sucks for me, at 41, because most guys my own age whom I try to date are hung up on much younger or older..don't stay in their age range. Straight men and gay men want younger partners, obsess about younger partners, and pay through the sphincter for younger partners. Gay women can try to date at all ages without being jeered at. Iâm now in my mid-50s, and I had a partner for almost 20 years until he died a few years ago.
I've always been one to seek out men for relationships who have been on earth about as long as I have, because that's where the most comfort and commonality can occur with a stranger. I don't know if it's because I didn't have a relationship in my 20s or because the younger guys have the look that attracts me -- not many guys in their 40s can pull off the hipster look and not appear ridiculous. I then realized that dating as a 50-year-old was going to be a lot more difficult than when I was 30 for a variety of reasons, including (a) there just arenât as many guys in my age group; and (b) a lot of them are already partnered. OP, I'm 49, I have no particular interest in guys in their 20s or even their 30s for the most part, but I'm on Scruff and I'm constantly getting messages, woofs, etc., from guys in their 20s - much more than any other age bracket. If you plan to visit the daddy sites that are recommended here, you'd better beef up your bank account.
OP, why not try your luck on a "normal" dating site and include your preference in your profile?