Your life still has no value,” continued Smart." (source)Setting physical boundaries in your courtship has nothing to do with your worth as a person.
Protecting your purity has to do with your well being and God's glory.
As precious as the first time is, too often purity is exalted to idolatrous proportions.
The Pharisees were trying to take an outside in approach to fixing problems.
But we can’t measure a person’s spirituality on the basis of a set of rules designed to govern behavior. The problem is we are more concerned on whether our behavior conforms to a certain code of conduct than we are the issues of our heart.
They probably lived close to the temple, were actively involved, and yet they were so corrupt. The evil is already in the heart, the only thing the outside stimulus does is stir up the evil already there and make it come out. Does that mean that a Christian can do anything he wants without fear of being defiled? Was it the moment he touched Bathsheba or when he kissed her? It happens when we lose our focus on God.” (p 90) The "pure in heart" are given the promise that they "shall see God" (Matthew 5:8).
Samuel grew up in the same environment and he turned out to be a godly man. If you are courting someone and you are alone in a room together, is it the privacy that causes you to stumble with your physical boundaries? Mark says “NOTHING outside can make a man unclean, but what comes out.” Did Jesus really mean NOTHING? YES – Because a Christian is one whose heart is filled with love for God and he wouldn’t want to do anything that would be contrary to glorifying Him. Did it happen the moment he saw her bathing and chose to watch instead of turn away? Maintaining physical boundaries is simply an outward expression of your heart’s desire to flee opportunities for compromise.
Success in this area especially must have the right motivation to bring the essential conviction for following through.
In order to provide a complete foundation for applying appropriate physical boundaries, we must first answer the following questions to establish a healthy paradigm about purity.
They never watched murder on TV, they had parents who loved them, and nobody was around to create peer pressure, and yet it came naturally to Cain to kill Abel. We are born with a propensity to please self, protect self, and promote self.
Eli’s sons (Hophni and Phineaus) were the “pastor’s kids”. As Joshua Harris points out in his book I Kissed Dating Goodbye, purity is a direction not a line. He poses the question regarding David and Bathsheba, “When did he cross the line of purity?
If I asked you to house-sit for me, I'd expect you to treat my house respectfully. When you fornicate (have sex when you're not married), you are doing something destructive to someone Else's property. Therefore you must be a responsible steward of your body.
I'd feel betrayed if you trashed it while I was gone. 1 Cor , 18-20 Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body... Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
When you say "I do" to the Lord and ask Him to be your Savior and Lord, you are disrespecting Him when you treat your body in a manner that He doesn't approve of. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.